lessons learned:  tomato cages and friendship
lessons learned: tomato cages and friendship

lessons learned: tomato cages and friendship

Last night, a handful of us headed over to the community garden at our church. You see, our woman’s group decided to

our droopy tomato plants

become the seed planters, literally and figuratively speaking, for a new ministry with and in the community where we live.  It is a “baby step” project with commitment, faith, and dreams that will carry it beyond this first year of poor soil, weeds and groundhogs.

My goal last night was to create chicken wire cages to prop up the tomato plants heavy with fruit.  You see, we’ve had rain the last few days, and if you know anything about tomatoes, all that water creates food filled with juice.  Between Saturday and yesterday, the plants appeared to be heavy in mind, body and spirit calling out to me, “Help!”

I arrived first and began working on the project on my own, and not so effectively I might add.  If you’ve never unrolled chicken wire, it can be a doozy to keep straight without the help of another person.  That statement doesn’t even capture what it’s like to cut it in pieces.  They snap off, flying every whicha way so that my legs this morning look as if our cat used my body for her scratching post.

After a bit, however, a friend arrived.  Yay!  In no time, we were working together to unroll, cut, and place the cages then tie up the tomatoes with twine.  With the help of two other women and two budding little farmer girls, we steadied 32 plants by the end of the evening.

Before we left, I stood at the edge of the garden.  I thought about those tomato cages and how they are like friendship.

support makes all the difference

Sometimes, life showers us with situations that leave us heavy in mind, body and spirit.  We become droopy and fatigued, wondering if we can bear the weight of it all.  Then come our friends.  They can’t take away the burden, but they gather around us and prop us up–through kind words, gentle hugs, quiet reassurance, and mindful prayer, helping us to grow and blossom and lighten our load.



  1. Many of the decisions that the Amish make about which new technology to accept hinge on the question, “does this new thing allow a person to do alone what used to be a group task?” They usually defer to keeping work a group, family project.

  2. Visiting from Girl Gab … love this post.
    Our family planted a community garden at our previous church. It was a great conversation starter with our neighbors who would stop by the fence to check on the garden or gladly take a bag of freshly picked veggies!
    I pray your community garden reaps a bountiful harvest.
    Catherine 🙂

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