every laugh line on your face, made you who you are today

I like to read and repost this one annually to honor one more year’s travel on the journey~

This is for all you girls about 42

Tossin’ pennies into the fountain of youth

Every laugh, laugh line on your face

Made you who you are today.

~This One’s for the Girls, sung by Martina McBride

Thank you, Martina McBride, for singing those lyrics with such energy and spirit!  When I listen to the live version of that song, I can’t help but smile knowing that in spite of all of the challenges in my last 40some years, I have laugh lines to remind me of what’s important.

The year of my separation, I can remember stopping one morning as I got ready for work.  Was it true?  There in the mirror stood a woman who had experienced a significant life transition but there, as a badge of honor, were the makings of two line sat the edge of her smile.

In the time since then, I’ve experienced death and loss, cancer and illness, spiritual isolation and physical pain.  I stand on my front porch this morning, however, and I look out over my little suburban farm, and I know that it has been my saving grace.

Yes, family and friends have been my safety nets, my mentors, and my support.  God has been my rock, my nurturer,and my peace.  But this farm, this farm has let me sweat out frustration, dig through tears, and hoe around problems.  It has excited me, encouraged me, and humbled me.  I have lost myself then found myself again out in this small piece of creation.

Most importantly, however, it has renewed my sense of purpose, filled me with delight, and taught me more about who I am than most other adventures on this life’s journey.  Not only has it contributed to the etching of laugh lines but also has defined muscles, warmed my spirit, and opened my heart.

So on this day, I’ll spend some time celebrating out in the vines and stalks, dirt and mulch that have welcomed me into their family and defined for me the simple meaning of “grace.”  And you better believe, I’ll be puttin’ those little laugh lines to work today! : )

lessons learned: why did the ducks cross the road?

At school this morning, the car rider line was held up by 3 ducks who carefully made their way across the road from pond to parking lot.  Sleepy teenagers didn’t seem to care, but it reminded me of this post I wrote a couple of years ago.  Happy adventures! ~cameron

Don’t be afraid to expand yourself, to step out of your comfort zone.  That’s where the joy and the adventure lie. 

~Herbie Hancock

On the way to and from my daughter’s school, we pass a rustic homestead with room set aside for a large garden, an old wooden barn out back, and a decent sized duck pond in the front.  The pond has attracted various water fowl, but three have chosen to stay.  A mallard, a wood duck and an old white goose happily took up residence several years ago and never left.road_sign_duck_animal

This morning, as I was driving home, I witnessed an odd site.  The ducks and goose had crossed the road.  There they were, the goose leading the charge, up a hill to a newly developed residential neighborhood quite the antithesis of their pastoral field and farm.

The goose looked pretty sure of himself, and the ducks waddled along behind probably thinking, “Ok, what’s this goose gotten us into THIS time?!”  It appeared to be less of a morning stroll and more of a deliberate mission.

As I drove past, I began thinking about those ducks crossing the road.  In order to do so, something had to motivate them to leave their comfortable way of life at the pond and compel them to want to cross a busy 2 lane stretch during school hours.  Once across, they had to have noticed that the neighborhood sits atop a large hill–quite a climb for those little legs.  And yet, they were marching right behind that goose, right up the hill on a new adventure.

Stepping outside of our comfort zones can be a bit like those ducks crossing the road.  We have to leave the security of what we know to take on the possibility of the unknown.  We may encounter challenges along the way, like busy roads and steep hills, but in the end, we may find new opportunities and learn a bit more about our capabilities.

I am sure that when they finish their outing, the ducks and goose will return to the serenity of their pond.  But you know, I bet they’ll have some pretty good stories to tell when the Canadian geese drop in on their way home from winter vacation.

10 ways to turn off the technology and turn on nature

With the advent of Spring, I thought this one might be appropriate to repost.  Happy Saturday~cameron

So last night, our Just Be women’s group met at the community garden at church for a night of prayer, fellowship, and laughter.  We started this garden a couple of months of ago, but it’s been slow to take shape given weather and time constraints.  Last night, we were determined to get weeds pulled and plants mulched.

Lucinda being loved on

Well, I couldn’t imagine leaving the Sisters at home in the guest bathroom all evening after being there all day so I decided to bring them to the garden.  Needless to say, when two boys under the age of 8 arrived, the Sisters took on their first playmates!

As I was hoeing around the tomatoes, I heard small voice say to his friend, “Ya know, when I bring my guinea pigs outside, they’re never like this!”  These two youngsters spent close to 2 hours chasing chickens, digging holes, and hoeing weeds.  Oh yeah, and they breathed fresh air, laughed their heads off, and probably, slept really, really good that night.

Why?

Because they were outside–outside enjoying the earth, outside learning about hens, outside making memories.

So how do we get kids to turn off the electronics and turn on nature?

  1. Plant a family garden–since I began my little farm, I have had more friends attempt gardens in their yards and noting that their kids really did have fun participating.  I spent one Saturday afternoon helping a mom and daughter build their first container bed.  At the end of the summer, the mom said that they didn’t necessarily harvest much, but it made for good conversation and valuable learning opportunities.
  2. Build a birdhouse–there are some ideas under my Thrifty Thursday projects, or you can find plans online, or you can go to your local hardware/craft store and buy a kit.  Not only is it a project than can include everyone (the carpenter, the artist, the naturalist), it will also be there to provide entertainment and discovery as long as you keep it filled.
  3. Raise a pet that needs to get outside (and I don’t mean placing a fish bowl out in the sun)–we actually inherited several pets from our yard who lived inside for some time then went back out into nature.  Animals are not only great opportunities for exercise, they can also be wonderful motivators for kids who are not “outdoorsy.”
  4. Fill a bug box or tadpole jar–doesn’t matter how dirty you get or how stinky something smells, bugs and tadpoles are preschoolers’ best friends.  Want to go bigger–find an old fish tank on Craigslist and create a terrarium which can bring the outdoors inside for winter months or rainy days.
  5. And speaking of rain, get out in it–splash in puddles, build creeks/dams, catch water in a rain barrel, measure the rainfall.  Kids will be totally amazed that you as an adult are going against the grain by playing out in the rain.
  6. Take a hike–make it even more of an adventure by having a list of 10 things they collect in a bag or look for on the trail.  Take paper and crayons and make rubbings or bring back items from the hike for crafts.
  7. Visit a new park, pond, lake, creek, arboretum, etc.–even in our most urban areas, green spaces are coming back “in style.”  When my daughter was little, she would say she was bored at our neighborhood park, but by golly, take her then park in the neighborhood over, and you’d thought we’d gone on vacation.  Often local greenspaces that are protected, such as a bird sanctuary, national forest or arboretum often have programs for families on the weekends that are free or at a minimal cost.
  8. Build a fort, treehouse or put up a tent–create “livable” spaces outside that gets are relegated to for play and hanging out instead of staying inside
  9. Go fishing–one of my most favorite memories is sitting at the lake with my dad fishing off a small wooden pier.  Now, I only had a stick from the yard with a string tied to it and a large earthworm on the end, but it wasn’t really about catching the fish–it was about sitting there with my dad.  Growing up, he taught me how to fish in the ocean, and we’d stand there together at dusk casting out beyond the waves.  My dad is not a sports fisherman–he only does it when he’s with us.  What a great opportunity for connection.
  10. Plant a tree–when I was young, I brought a maple seedling home from my friend’s house.  My parents let me plant it in a pot inside until it actually sprouted, then we put it in the ground in our yard.  Even as a pre-teen, I watched that tree grow, providing colorful leaves in the fall and cool shade in the summer.  I was always proud of that “project.”

As always, folks, share your ideas here–clearly, there are so many more than 10 ways to turn off the technology and turn on nature.  Don’t we owe it to our children and the generations to come to share with them all of the memories we made outside as kids?